Supposedly in the workout world "4 weeks, you see change. 8 weeks, family and close friends see change. 12 weeks, everyone sees change." I'd like to drag it into 12 weeks, but at the moment my goal is to make it to that 8 week mark. ^^ Oh, and maybe look kinda like the guy in the video. ;D
On another note for success, working piece by piece on the garage. Considering taking pictures as the work goes on so I can do a time lapse (what is with me and time lapse stuff? XD) video of the work, but at the moment I'm a little too lazy for that. =P But those spiders! Normally I'm not really afraid of spiders, but when there's more than 5, big and tiny babies under /every/ thing you pick up and move, it's a little frightening to move a bunch of stuff. But it's my work in progress for the summer. Big time working on it tomorrow. Included is sealing and painting the garage doors. Cleaning everything really well, and throwing away a TON of old junk. Mom's pretty much given me free reign to get rid of anything no one has looked at in over 10 years. Which is all our junk. XD
As a last thought, my Mom and I were talking about significant others (since the name of this blog /is/ "Till I Find That One") and we got talking about settling for someone you know isn't a 10 because searching for that 10 is nearly impossible to find. Do you settle for a 9.8 after years of searching and not finding that 10? And if you don't, how do you tell that 9.8 that that's what they are? "Sorry honey! Close but no cigar." Tough call. My romantic side says don't settle for anything less than your 10, but my friend side that doesn't like seeing people hurt says don't turn down the 9.8 cause it may be all you ever find. At the end of the day though, I think I'd still wait for my 10, even if I dream in the meantime about what life with the 9.8 would be like.
Leave a comment about what you would choose. Wait for the 10 or settle for the really good 9.8?
-Jake
On the 10 vs 9.8 question, I see two important factors in making the decision of who to marry: listen to God and realize that your 10 still isn't perfect.
ReplyDeleteThe first of the two factors is the most important in actually making the decision. As long as you keep a good relationship with God, He will tell you which one is The One when you need to know it and you won't have any doubt. He may hint at it for a while before actually telling you, but, in the end, He knows and eventually you will too.
The second of the two factors is the most important in building a lasting relationship with that person. "Your 10 is not perfect" sounds a bit cynical, but it isn't as much as you would think. God leads us to those who are perfect for us in a given moment - friends, significant others, and so on. Each person has qualities that we need to emulate, avoid, or find motivation from in one way or another. I've found that the most effective way for God to help us grow individually is to give us problems to work through. The most effective way for a couple to grow closer together is to work through problems together. Thus, our 10 is not a perfect person, but they are perfect for us because their flaws and experiences are exactly what we need to grow. Going about the relationship with that attitude will allow you to get through your problems and even be thankful for them if only for the growth it allowed in both of you rather than banging your head against the wall with every new issue wondering if you're really meant to be together.
The moral of the story is to wait for the 10, but keep God as your #1. He knows what you should do a lot more clearly than you do and He'll help you through all of it. Once He lets you in on it, go at it with everything you've got because there shouldn't be anything left to doubt.
You also have to consider that your perfect 10 might not exist and if they do, they might be what you want but not what you need. There's a quote that says, "Marriage is meant to make us holy, not happy." I definitely don't recommend getting married if you aren't happy about it ;) and it certainly brings a lot of happiness, but we tend to lose sight of what marriage is about when we focus on finding our idea of a perfect mate who will make us perfectly happy (which doesn't exist, and I know you're more level-headed than that, I'm just speaking in general terms). I wrote about the concept of the one on my blog a while back if you're interested. http://manwariel.blogspot.com/2012/02/one.html
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